Dear Lulu Jeh: I have been seeing someone for about three weeks. I started digging around on their social media profiles recently and found out they are a huge party animal. It makes sense now because sometimes I don’t hear from them for days only to later find out that they were on a bender. This is not the kind of thing I’m into, so I’m wondering if I should just end things now? — Introverted

Dear Introverted: Yes. 

But first, there are a few different things here to unpack. Why are you digging around on their social media profile? The issues that can come from trying to find out someone’s history online, rather than IRL, are well documented. Are you getting the whole truth from these public posts? Seriously, there’s an easy to find out: ask them directly. No amount of social media stalking will equal the power of a heart-to-heart, face-to-face. 

Regardless of how you get down to their truth: if their lifestyle is making you feel uncomfortable, then you are not compatible. End it now! 

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